Self-confidence: Feeling Good In Your Own Skin

Hello everyone :)


As you may know, just like any other normal person, I struggle on a day-to-day basis with body positivity and self-confidence. Sometimes I wake up in the morning and the world is my oyster and I'm feeling great. But then other days, sometimes more often than I'd like, I wake up and suddenly I feel like my clothes don't fit as well, my skin is too red and puffy and I'm in desperate need of a duvet day.

Now we'd all love to be able to stay in bed and watch Netflix and drink tea all day when we're feeling rough but with life, college and work we all don't have that luxury. I've struggled a lot with these kinds of days, especially after nights when I've binged or overeaten but I'm slowly starting to come up with a few strategies to make me feel good on the outside so I can shine on the inside.

Obviously we all know self-love and body acceptance are the best ways to have good body image days all the time and that when we truly love our bodies we can reach levels of self-confidence we've never had before. However even for people without body image problems or disordered eating habits self-love and body acceptance is a hell of a lot to ask.

That's why I'm here to give you some tips on how to make yourself feel a bit better on the outside whilst you're doing the work to love yourself on the inside too.

A little bit of make-up can do a lot of good

I used to think wearing make-up was a bit like lying to yourself or covering up your insecurities. I felt that if I wore make-up I was somehow self-obsessed and superficial. But now I couldn't feel any more different. Now I'm by no means a 'beauty' professional, you won't find me sporting a perfect cat eye fleek or a smouldering smokey eye any time soon. I started off just wearing a tinted SPF with some mascara just to balance out my redness but now I've moved into dabbing on some concealer and highlighter to give my skin a glowy complexion. I know it may seem like a trivial but these little changes have helped a lot whenever I catch myself in a mirror. 

I went to get my make-up done for the Trinity Ball a week ago and picked up the Estée Lauder Double-wear concealer and their lip liner in which happens to match my lip colour perfectly so it's great for a causal look. 

Fab hair don't care

There's something about a freshly blown out mane that can give you a bit of sass in your step. Again, not really my strong area but I'm working on it. So far fishtail plaits are my forté and my blow drying technique is slowly but surely improving. Next on my to-buy list is a good curling iron so I can add to my naturally waving hair. 

Spritz it up

While I love a waft of perfume throughout the day I always, I mean always, forget to put on perfume before I leave the house. However in special circumstances like these kinds of days I make an extra effort to spray my favourite scent. A few of my personal favs are Taylor Swift's Wonderstruck and La Prairie Midnight. 

Energise your inside

Rather than trying to cheer myself up with food I like to give myself a boost with a nice refreshing drink. Iced water with lots of lemon works wonders for me and gives my skin, energy levels and digestive system a well needed reboot. Cute glass jar is optional ;)

Wear clothes you both look and FEEL good in

All of us girls know how uncomfortable ultra skinny jeans can feel especially while we're PMSing or feeling bloated. Whenever I've had a bad night and my stomach is uncomfortable I don't particularly love the idea of a tight waistband digging into my stomach so I like to have a back up outfit on hand that I know I'll look and feel good in, even when I'm having a bad body image day. A usual go-to for me are some boyfriend fit jeans, a soft cosy jumper and a pair of comfy trainers. Nothing too fancy, an outfit that will boost my self-confidence and won't leave me pulling at my clothes all day.

So yeah those are a few things I've been doing to help me with my confidence levels and I'm sure I'll be able to add to the list as time goes on. Let me know if they are of some help and I'd love to know what some of your go-to feel happy tips are. Let me know in the comments!

How To Make it in Irish Design. Advice from the Pros.

Hello lovelies!

So earlier this week I went to a talk on Irish Design in the Bank Of Ireland in association with Dublin Fashion Festival presented by Brendan Courtney, fashion stylist, designer, and presenter of the popular show Off The Rails. On the panel was photographer Barry McCall, buyer Aisling Kilduff owner of the The Design Centre and Constance Harris top fashion specialist. It was quite safe to say I was sitting with the creme de la creme of the Irish fashion world.

It was kind of like an open panel situation where Brendan asked the panel questions and each of them replied and of course if you were brave enough members of the audience could stick up their hand and ask a question. All the questions were about how to succeed in the fashion industry as a new emerging designer and I was furiously tapping on my phone trying to take down all the valuable advice they were handing out so listen up and pay attention!

Q1: How to stand out from the pack of newly graduated talent?

Barry (B): For Barry as a photographer who loves to shoot editorial he said he looks for the avant garde, the wow factor in a well themed and organised collection. He also said to be enthusiastic and get your pieces out there as much as possible by sending in look books to buyers and contacting the press.

Constance (C): For Constance it's all about having the confidence to create a collection that is purely you and your creative vision instead of recycling looks from other designers collections. When she judges a collection she looks for a whole over all theme that is consistent within a 30 piece line.

Aisling (A): As a buyer Aisling looks for a new, fresh talent that really takes advantage of their skills. Retail quality is also a big factor to consider. 

Q2 What is more important? Talent or Ambition?

According to this panel it is equally important to have both drive and raw talent. Aisling warns that there is a chance that your ambition could come across as too cocky and she advises to let down your ego and listen to comments from buyers and consumers. 

Q3 Common pitfalls new design graduates can fall into.

C: When at first trying to get your work seen by people in the industry keep your look book photography simple and clean. Also when sending photos of garments to editors or stylists through email attach the photo as a simple .jpeg format as it can be easily opened and viewed quickly. It's important that your collection has a minimum 15 pieces as it's just starting off but later on 30 pieces is standard to aim for. 

A: Aisling stresses that it's all about finish and the over all completion of the pieces. As a buyer you don't just look at the outside of the garment you look at how it's sewn up, what it's made of and how it fits on that target market. 

B: It's important to do your homework about the client you're going to see, know a bit about what they're popular for and why you think you'd be a great fit for them. It's sometimes better just to find one client who you really think you'd be great with and keep on hounding them.

Brendan (BR): The whole design and sale process is a very lengthily and stressful period but take it in your stride and take on advice from anywhere you can. It's also a very very good idea to do out a rough 5 year business plan that will help you stay on track and have a clear idea of where you want to go and how you'll get there.

Q4 How has the fashion industry changed since the Celtic Tiger?

C: During the Celtic Tiger people forgot about Irish talent because they had the money to fly in models and designers from over seas but now the industry is looking at more ethical, sustainable fashion. Irish talent is getting more and more appreciation and sometimes the Irish market is so tough to succeed in you have to move to places like London or New York to make a name for yourself and then return.

A: Consumers want to buy Irish and support home grown talent so it's important not to forget your roots and  let the Irish market become familiar with your brand.

Q5 Is going into a partnership a good idea?

BR: Partnership is the way forward. In reality the design process makes up about 2/3% of the over all cycle and it's helpful to have that other half to help out with the financial dealings and other parts of the production cycle that can be ignored. It's also great to have someone to challenge you creativity and mix their talent with yours.

Q6 The business of bankruptcy   

BR: Bankruptcy is part of the learning curve of a new designer but to avoid it as much as possible start looking for investment as soon as you're out of university. Now it seems there is more of an opportunity not to fail because of all the aid and help that is available.

C: Always do your market research and be confident that what you produce is actually what your target consumer wants. 

Q7 How and when to approach buyers. 

A: When the collection is finished and put together. Bring in a look book and make sure you're ready to start producing if your buyers are interested. 

C: In terms of how to approach a buyer always look the part, there's no room for jeans and converse when meeting the people at Brown Thomas. Also always always always remember to say thank you no matter what, send a hand written card or even just an e-mail. A small thank you goes a long way.

And just a few photos. (Please excuse the bad quality I only had my iPhone with me!)

Sorry that was a bit of a long one but I thought it was necessary. I really enjoyed the talk and getting a bit of background info on what's happening in today's world of fashion and I hope you enjoyed reading about what I learned too!

Thanks for reading,
Ciara xx